Having fives boys and one girl, I can finally relate to the phrase boys will be boys. There are days I look at my sons ranging from the age of 4yrs- 18 yrs. There is never a moment I am wondering, “What were you thinking when you did that”. Most times it is because they just wanted to see what it was like to do it. Ha, imagine your son coming in with a spider in his hand want to let it bite him simply because he wanted to be like Spiderman (true story about my 5-year-old).
Below I will tell you 5 fun facts about raising boys as a single mom:
- They learn from your actions too: They look to you for mannerisms, this is a huge fact, because that also includes the feminine side, and they are depending on us to help guide them through the differences between masculinity and what it should be like for them. Therefore, if they see me doing things such as using feminine products as women do, I stop and let them know that in the culture of our home this is what women/ girls do. It will soon be a part of their internal filter, “oh mom this is for girls, right”? Me, yep that is right son!
- They need to explore: It is something I have noticed about my boys, every action doesn’t have an explanation, nor does it always have a detailed thought process. If it looks interesting, they will find out why, with no questions asked and hopefully, you will be there to catch them before they jump off the roof of the house (Bahahaha)! Let them explore, I am good at going to get them to experiment and science kits from Walmart and help develop their critical thinking skills as much as I possibly can.
- They do not sense danger: I believe that boys do not have the same fear factors that girls carry. They don’t care how scary it looks, they normally look at you for what they should fear, and even then, they will still have some Dennis to Menace moments, where they must touch it, taste it, experience it before they believe it is bad.
- They have a supernatural love for you as their mom and they look for you in their dating partners, if he looks up to you in any way shape, or form, he will be looking for pieces of you to carry with him throughout his life. It is important to live your life in the best way you can within your values because your character determines most of his filters in a partner.
- Do not forget to be vulnerable, again we must be intentional when it comes to raising all of our children.